Talking to yourself is one of the best methods for all different kinds of solutions. If you want to increase your self-confidence, talking to yourself can help you with that and do wonders. When you want to calm down, to know more about yourself, want to impress someone, be more happy, be more intelligent even, and when you want to improve your communication skills then you need to start by talking to yourself. 

Some studies show that talking to yourself relieves stress, organizes your thoughts, helps you be more self-reliant, control your emotions better, and it helps connect you to your inner self. Not only that, most geniuses talk to themselves. Want to be a genius? Then start doing that! Researchers also say that it reduces anxiety and helps to increase self confidence.

So I went over the scientific research and information, let’s get personal. I talk to myself A LOT! I used to do it when I was a child and even when I was a teenager, and I still do it now in my twenties. Why? Because it helps me so much! When I have no motivation to go to work, talking positively to myself gives me a boost. It helps me go to work with a positive mindset and mood which then helps me do better at work. It even creates positive situations more often. Everyday when I do my makeup (which takes about an hour haha) I talk to myself a lot. Sometimes I catch myself saying negative things and I try hard to reprogram my mind into doing “positive mode” instead. For example I sometimes think I am losing a lot of hair, I try to not say that and find positive things about my hair because what I say will impact what happens. A couple years ago I used to think my hair is unhealthy, ugly, falling out, and guess what? All that happened even more! Recently I started saying good things about it and saying that it’s not falling out alot, and that it’s healthy. By doing it differently it actually made me see and feel that my hair is healthy and not falling out a lot.  It also helped me be more confident about my hair. I also say things to myself like “DAMN GURLLLL YOU LOOK GOOD!” when I finish my makeup and it helps me leave to wherever I’m going in a very positive and happy mood. It helped me be more positive, confident, kind, and happy. When you’re happy with yourself you do things that make you and others happy, you also then will try to bring people up and make them more confident and happy. 

As much as talking to yourself has good benefits, it can also be poisonous when used the wrong way, like talking negatively to yourself! If you had a bad situation happen to you and go alone in your room, don’t think about how bad the situation was. Instead, think of the benefits of the situation and how you can change for the better from it. One of the most awful things you can do to yourself is talk negatively about yourself and others. This will not only make you see darkness but will also put other people in the dark. You will be a person who spreads awful vibes and energy that will make people distance themselves from you. Which will lead you to even being more unhappy. Bad situations help us grow, they help us become stronger. It’s not meant to destroy us or bring us down. It’s meant to help us overcome ourselves and situations that are difficult. One of the best things that can help you in situations like this is to talk positively about the situation and yourself. To remind yourself of who you are and what you went through. That this situation is nothing and you can easily get through it and come out even more beautiful from it. Tell yourself you’re strong, brave, hopeful, and kind. Don’t think of how bad of a person you are and how bad the situation is. It’s hard to not do that, I can understand that a hundred percent. However we are not meant to stay the same, we are meant to grow and develop ourselves. Each small step makes a big difference and starting with being a bit kinder to yourself will make situations easier for you to handle. 

We have a lot of people that love us and bring happiness to ourselves, but we also have people that will bring us down and disappoint us. That’s why it’s best to be your biggest cheerleader. To tell yourself that you’re awesome, amazing, strong, beautiful, lovable, kind, intelligent, etc. Today when you’re eating, tell yourself how healthy and lucky you are to eat, drink, walk, sleep, have eyes, ears, hands, shoes, phone, house, family, friends, spouse, job, etc. Whatever you have in yourself remind yourself that you are lucky to have that and be thankful for it. Wake up in the morning and tell yourself “I got this! Today will be beautiful, challenging, and a new adventure.” Trust that God has in store beautiful things for you. Trust yourself that you can overcome anything! 

Start practicing to talk to yourself today, then practice it again tomorrow, then after tomorrow, and after, and after. Keep doing it no matter how hard it is. Train yourself to be someone who brings her/himself out of the dark. I hope that you will be able to see good results and that you will have the courage to face yourself. I’ll end this blog post with a quote from Dale Carneige, “By talking to yourself about the things that you have to be grateful for you can fill your mind with thoughts that soar and sing.”

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